Sorry to hear about your problem. I recommend that you discuss this concern with your doctor
. Herpes simplex virus 2 (or HSV2, for short) is a common STD
that can cause symptoms and pain, most often in the genital region, of those who are affected. While the virus is usually localized to the genitals, it can spread to other body parts as well. Barrier methods of protection should be utilized at all times, and genital contact restricted when symptoms are active. Fortunately, there are medications that can help to limit the outbreaks of this virus and help limit its effect on your life. While the virus may be affecting both of you, it is true that you can cause flare ups in your partner by having unprotected sex, especially at the times when you are the most infected. Barrier protection, while not perfect, is certainly recommended as a method of decreasing transmission. The CDC has a website that has some valuable information, and your doctor will serve as another resource for information about your condition and how you can best manage it. Please speak with your doctor, and use protection even though you may both have the disease already so that you can limit your symptoms, at least until you clarify this further with your doctor.