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Emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ) is the way we perceive, manage and express our emotions. Growing up, we were taught the importance of getting good grades, and we knew what it meant to have a high IQ. However, our parents and teachers may not have spent much time emphasizing the critical role EQ would play in our lives.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is, they may not have fully understood it themselves. But improving your emotional intelligence could be the missing link for you. Learning to better identify and control your emotions as they arise could change your life and relationships, both personal and professional.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Definition of emotional intelligence<\/h2>\n

Have you ever found yourself in a situation \u2014 maybe having an argument with a loved one \u2014 where you felt so overwhelmed by your emotions that you said or did something you instantly regretted? For most people, the answer is a resounding yes. That’s because we all struggle or have struggled with controlling our emotions at one point or another. That’s where emotional intelligence comes in.<\/span><\/p>\n

Emotional intelligence<\/span><\/a> refers to the ability to recognize, process, and regulate one’s emotions and emotional responses, while also being empathetic to the emotions of those around you. We could all benefit from learning to improve how we handle our emotions.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Research<\/span><\/a> suggests that a higher EQ is linked to many benefits, including better mental health, deeper connections within your relationships and higher job satisfaction.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Why is emotional intelligence important?<\/h2>\n

Emotional intelligence is a crucial part of interpersonal relationships, communication and conflict resolution. The higher your emotional intelligence, the easier it will be to navigate and maintain the important relationships in your life. When you take the time to learn how to respond to challenges and conflict in healthy and constructive ways, you should see improvements in your personal life.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In personal relationships<\/h2>\n

Your personal relationships include your friends, family members, significant others and more. While building and maintaining these, <\/span>emotional intelligence is key<\/span><\/a>. Being able to relate to others on an emotional level will create a safe space for your loved ones to show up as their truest selves, which will lead to deeper connections.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>When you work on your EQ, you’ll be able to name the emotions you’re feeling and better articulate them to those around you. This will create room for clearer and more effective communication. Another essential part of any relationship is good conflict resolution: With improved emotional intelligence, you’ll feel better equipped to handle and resolve disagreements. You’ll find that you’re able to remain calm and level-headed, listen to the other person’s point of view and work together toward a resolution. Your disagreements will feel more like you’re both united against a problem than fighting against each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

Additionally, emotional intelligence will help you be more forgiving and compassionate in your relationships. Your responses will be driven less by anger and more by kindness.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In professional relationships<\/h2>\n

\u00a0<\/span>Emotional intelligence is just as important in professional relationships as it is in your personal life. Bringing emotional intelligence <\/span>to the workplace<\/span><\/a> will benefit you and everyone around you. This mindset will make it easier to collaborate and work effectively with others as a part of a team.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/span>It’s also essential for effective leadership, since leaders who are emotionally intelligent will not only be able to understand and communicate with employees but also motivate them. Conflict resolution and decision-making are also important in the workplace. Emotional intelligence will help you consider the emotional impact of your choices, weigh the pros and cons, and consider the needs of both your colleagues and customers.<\/span><\/p>\n

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How to build emotional intelligence<\/h2>\n

The popular Goleman model describes four main <\/span>elements to emotional intelligence<\/span><\/a>. Each element is equally important, and may require different tactics or approaches to improve them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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Self-awareness<\/h2>\n

Improving your emotional intelligence will take introspection \u2014 after all, you can’t fix or improve something without first becoming aware of it. Becoming self-aware is a critical part of building higher emotional intelligence. Self-awareness is the ability to see and understand your own thoughts, emotions and patterns of behavior. It involves getting honest with yourself and acknowledging your strengths, weakness, values and belief systems.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Self-awareness is the foundation of personal growth and development. It can also lead to greater self-acceptance, confidence and overall well-being.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Examples of self-awareness include:<\/span><\/p>\n