About Leonard Ruder
The most important aspect of successful psychotherapy is the relationship that develops between the client and the therapist. I create a safe, comfortable atmosphere where we can get to the core issues quickly and do good work together. That is not to say I won’t confront you when necessary; I will, but with compassion and caring. Never with judgment. I am highly trained in many therapeutic modalities and will individualize treatment specifically for you. You will receive a variety of practical tools for overcoming your anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, etc. These tools will empower and aid you in reaching your goals. I am an active participant in the therapy process. Through our creative collaboration, you will discover the power of perspective & the role it plays in resolving the blocks that keep you from having what you want in your life. Together we will create infinite possibilities for your growth, self- discovery and creativity. I will serve as a catalyst to help you to resolve your conflicts, be happy, live your life fully and authentically. Finally, for anyone who is open to the spiritual (not religious) dimension of life, it is one of my passions to serve as your guide as you learn how to integrate this crucial dimension into your daily life. To this end, we will consider the wise words of French philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin, “…We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” I have over 30 years of experience working with individuals (adults & adolescents) couples and families. Although I have a general practice some of my specialties include: eating disorders, drug & alcohol addiction, ACoA, depression, anxiety, grief & loss, stress management & relationship difficulties.
- Blue Cross Blue Shield of Western New York
Education and training
- New York University, Master's in Clinical Social Work
- New York University (Bachelor’s)
- New York University (Bachelor’s)
- IMAGO Relationships International
Awards and publications
- Grand Rounds Speaker: Columbia Presbyterian Hospital - Topic: Starving for Affection - The Theory and Treatment of Bulimia
- The Rolanda Watts Nationally Syndicated Television Show., New York City - September 1995 Invited professional expert on relationships. Appearance on the show: "Sleeping with one . . . In love with another. "
- Brookfield High School, Brookfield, Ct., Spring 2005 Keynote Address Delivered to 250 students on their Career Day Project
Leonard Ruder's office locations
1 Porters Lane
Westport, CT 06880
31 Washington Square West, Suite 2R
New York, NY 10011
Patient reviews for Leonard Ruder, CSW, LCSW
I visited Dr. Ruder's CT office which was in his home and it was not an ideal environment to see patients - sat down on a broken, old couch, dirty office for 5 min. wondering if anyone knew I was at the house/office. Once the session started, a dog was in the room, jumping up on me (nothing against dogs, just not professional to me in a healthcare setting). Dr. Ruder's appearance was also not professional as he was wearing sweatpants. Again, this was his home office and maybe his other office would generate a difference experience.
Leonard has changed my everyday attitude and how I relate to people in just a few short months. He offers very good ways of visualizing a situation such that I not only understand his perspective during the appointment but also carry around with me a series of stories/visuals that help me everyday and that I share with my friends and family. I am thrilled to have Leonard as a coach as I seek to be the best person I can be.
I’ve been seeing Leonard for about a year now and my well-being has improved dramatically. I’ve come to him at a time when I was extremely anxious and miserable in my day-to-day life. Since then he helped me understand that things might happen to my in my life but it’s up to me how I’m going to react to them. This has been the greatest lesson I’ve received in recent years. The idea that I can really define and decide how I feel on a daily basis has changed my life. The best part about coming to see Leonard on a regular basis is that he does not mind reminding me about that fact whenever I forget it. He’s extremely patient and he offers a wealth of experience, wisdom and warmth that makes it easy to open up and share. He easily spots patterns in ones life and guides you so that you can spot them too. He is also extremely helpful in making your understand why you are the way you are and how you can go about changing it - if you choose to do so. He never pressures you but just helps your see your options and look at your life from a different perspective. It’s eye-opening! I highly recommend him as a therapist.
Dr Ruder is a caring and thoughtful individual by nature which comes accross in his treatment. What I appreciate most is his genuine curiosity and interest in wellness through non-traditional methods. Dr.Ruder encourages his patients to seek their own path and stand in their own truth rather than blindly accept what he proposes- in fact he often says "don't accept or reject what I'm saying, merely consider it."
Dr. Ruder is the best therapist I have ever had. He is very easy to connect with and it is clear that his full attention is with you for the entire session. Because he loves his job and finds human connection genuinely interesting, he does not get worn out or diverted when he has multiple appointments a day. He speaks from the mind and heart and his conversation is natural: very little energy is spent on senseless filtering or indirectness, and this produces great results. In his connection with you, it is never just a one way conversation. He shares relevant details about his life that connect to the topic you are discussing for comparison or contrast. The things you learn about him are gems that are very relatable, making you feel like there is someone in the trenches with you rather than creating a model of perfect person you will never become. He also never dominates the conversation. Dr. Ruder practices therapy at a higher level than most other therapists. Rather than just dealing with the things at hand from your week, he finds patterns with your behavior and abstracts them into principles and beliefs about the world that you may have that could be leading you in the wrong direction. So rather than the immediate, he tackles the root cause and helps you work through it to get out of poor cycles of behavior. I have certainly learned a lot from him and improves substantially over the past year.
I highly recommend Leonard as a psychotherapist. He is an excellent listener and communicator and has the great ability of applying simple analogies of everyday life to complex personal issues to aid in ones search for personal growth.
I decided to go to Leonard almost a year ago after seeing positive reviews about him on zocdoc. I am in my thirties and have never been to therapy before, but was going through a tough time in my marriage and was desperate. Leonard is has a wealth of experience and knowledge and is extremely professional yet friendly at the same time. He has been an invaluable resource for me, giving me insight, allowing me to vent about work and relationships, and helping me become the best person I can be. My friends and family have all noticed a positive change in my outlook towards life since I started seeing him. I am so glad I took this step in my life and now I look forward to my sessions every week. It has truly been life-changing. I give Leonard my highest recommendation for anyone going through a difficult time, especially if you are new to therapy as I was.
I had been looking for a therapist for quite awhile. When I came accross Leonard's bio on ZocDoc it spoke to me. I hadn't even met with him yet & felt he could help me. I was right. I've been seeing him for almost a year now & he continues to give me guidance & gain perspective of things that confused me before. I believe if I continue to see him my ability to handle life can only improve.
I highly recommend Leonard as a therapist. I've been seeing him for awhile now and each visit helps me clear my head and gain a perspective. He's helped me develop emotional maturity and simply grow as a human being.
Leonard Ruder is an incredibly accomplished, effective and experienced professional. Having guided me me how to integrate the use of the concepts of perspective, spirituality and various others in my way of thinking, he has made a huge impact on my life. If you want to waste your money then go to another therapist. If you want a personal coach that will drive your levels of personal growth to levels you have never imagined, Leonard is that coach. He is exceptional at helping you identify and get past conscious or unconscious roadblocks to your happiness. If there was a 5 star scale of how to rate therapists, he would be a six.
Leonard is incredibly special and unique as a therapist and a surprisingly huge source of support for me in my life. I always look forward to the sessions and feel as if a weight has been lifted from me when I leave. I often take notes after our conversations because he explains things to me with such new clear perspectives--that I don't want to forget his exact words- when times are especially difficult I will look back on his quotes throughout the week to get my head back on straight. I think he is really a one of a kind teacher in his field and Ive already recommended him to many of my friends and their friends and their friend's friends!!His clarity, empathy, kindness and creativity as a teacher and guide are priceless. I am a fan. Elizabeth
Leonard's approach to therapy is not your typical approach. He is truly a unique therapist. He engages clients with a genuine balance of his abundant knowledge of mental health and his personal views of life and all the experiences it entails. This creates an experience in treatment in which you realize you are working with someone who is quite competent in his field and truly cares about his clients. -James C.
Dr Ruder makes me feel listened to and understood. Often times one needs their feelings and thoughts validated- and he does this without placating you. I appreciate how he engages and creates food for thought without being pushy or judgmental.
I came to Leonard two years ago when I was going through a painful divorce. I highly recommend Leonard as a therapist as he is a wise and caring man intent on helping everyone he meets become the best person they can be. It was important for me to continue my therapy with Leonard so that I learned from the mistakes I made in my first marriage. I am now in a loving relationship and with my new partner I am entirely open and communicative and we have a great deal of empathy for each other. I have confidence that I can be in a happy and lasting marriage in the future even though I feared for some time that I would repeat the same mistakes I made in my first marriage. When Leonard and I first met I was emotionally shaken up and depressed and in a tragic state following the break up with my wife. Leonard helped to console me and provided a safe place to explore my emotions. As we got to know each other better Leonard has helped me to champion my emotions and as well through our discussions I have uncovered an understanding of where I stand in my spirituality (non-religious but very spiritual). Leonard is a very spiritual person: as our relationship grew and he learned I was open to exploring my spirituality with him, our discussions often turned to this topic but I have never felt uncomfortable or influenced. My interactions with my peers, my partner and myself are stronger today than they were before I met Leonard. I highly recommend speaking with Leonard if you are stuck with some aspect of your life.
Leonard Ruder has been my therapist for many years now. He has transformed my way of thinking and how to go about living my life with content and happiness. His approach is not to give an answer to resolve your issues. But leading you to come up with your own answers. My confidence and belief in myself has never been better!
I’ve been going to therapy with Leonard Ruder for over 9 years. In my experience, what sets Leonard apart is his gift of empathy as a therapist and his expertise in navigating feelings and enhancing perspective to become more present and actively engaged in one’s own experiences and responses in life. In other words, Leonard helped me to find agency in my life. I began seeing Leonard for treatment of what I described as acute anxiety, panic attacks and depression. I felt out of control of my feelings and responses to the daily stimuli of life, and I felt I was slowly becoming disconnected and lost in negative feelings. I felt I had no agency. As a therapist, Leonard is an excellent listener and very patient and wise. Over time he provided me with key concepts, considerations, and perspectives to consider in overcoming the panic attacks, anxiety and much of the depression I was suffering from. In many ways I have recovered from the symptoms that originally brought me to Leonard. And after these many years, after a lot of recovery, what keeps me going to Leonard is his generosity and openness as a therapist. I have integrated much of his teaching and wisdom into my daily life, which has been positively transformative. Further his therapy has given me the confidence to be creative and discover my own authenticity and resilience, to be healthy, fulfilled, generally happy, to arrive in the present more fully engaged in the moment, and to generally have a more deeply satisfying and meaningful human experience.
Leonard has helped me grow so much. He has helped me see what I can do to make life easier... the ways that I can take control and responsibility for a healthy and enjoyable life. I used to believe that I was a powerless victim..and that was my fate. Leonard helped me see that I make my own reality and helped me change my behavior and put into practice the concepts he helped me understand
Leonard has been my therapist for the last three years and he has been tremendously helpful. Not only does he provide a sympathetic ear but also guidance that speaks to a holistic approach to mental health. What I mean by holistic is that unlike many other therapists that stick rigorously to some rigid psychological dogma that pigeonholes treatment to specific "illnesses", (like depression, OCD, etc.), Leonard treats the person. In other words, his approach sees the human being as more than just a bunch of bundle of neurosis and malfunctioning neurotransmitters. I would recommend Leonard to anyone who not only wants to feel better emotionally but also spiritually, mentally, and physically.
It was comforting to know that he is genuinely interested in listening and helping. I felt the support and direction I received was such that I will be able to follow through and make the daily changes to achieve my goal.
Len has been my therapist for some time. His warm, steady, empathetic and commonsensical advice and guidance has helped me through a very difficult period in my life. He has stood with me as I've faced my deepest concerns and been my enthusiastic supporter as I've turned defeatism into self actualization, self confidence and, dare I say it, happiness.
I've visited with Leonard a few times now and he's been extremely helpful. I've had a lot going on in my life and he's given me perspective and reassurance. This is the first therapist I've been to and it has been a very positive experience. Highly recommend him.
It was my first visit, but he made me feel very comfortable about discussing certain subjects I may have otherwise left out. He's open and professional and I would recommend him.
I felt that Dr. Ruder genuinely listened and really cared. I felt that he had a lot of life experience as well as education and that his advice was wise. I never felt rushed or judged and it was an extremely positive experience. He is diverse yet strong and stable. I felt comfortable and will continue to work with him for sure.
It's only my first appointment but I felt very comfortable talking to Leonard. I left the visit feeling optimistic and calm.
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