About Xiaoxu Hong
Clientele seen
Young adults (18-24)
Couples
Adults (25-64)
Groups
Individuals
Families
Treatment approaches
Acceptance and Commitment (ACT)
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
Art Therapy
Culturally Sensitive
Attachment-based
Dialectical (DBT)
Identity
Gender
FemaleEthnicity
Asian
Languages spoken
Chinese (Mandarin), English
Getting to know Xiaoxu Hong
You may have worked with therapists who felt polished, goal-oriented, and always a little ahead of you. But I want you to know: I’m not like that. I’m the kind of therapist who’s chill, who loves slowing down in session, and who doesn’t always do things by the book. I want to offer you a space where you don’t have to rush, explain, or “do well” to be enough.
Of course, I use tools like CBT and DBT to help bring clarity, but what I’m best at is creating space where something shifts quietly, through our relationship. If there’s a day when you’re too tired to speak, I’m completely fine spending the session watching your favorite movie with you. I won’t push you to “get better” right away. We’re not in a race to become the best version of you.
I’ve worked with children, teens, and adults who carry deep trauma. I deeply understand what it means to grow up holding expectations before you even had words for them. Maybe you learned early on that you had to be excellent to be loved. You became good at shrinking your needs, twisting yourself into someone “acceptable.” But somewhere inside, there’s still that question: Am I ever enough? Is it my fault?
I’m not here to fix you. I’m here to walk beside you as you slowly unlearn that story, and begin to believe you’re already worth being seen, just as you are. Not becoming who you’re “supposed” to be can be its own kind of care. And it’s okay! We can learn to hold that imperfect, trying child together.
Working with me doesn’t mean filling out worksheets every session or making visible “progress” every week. It means you slowly begin to feel a little less anxious about the world’s expectations. It means you start to allow pauses, confusion, even stillness.
Progress might be showing up just a little earlier than last week. It might be saying, “I’m tired.” Noticed your own emotions and patterns. The real shift is when you begin to believe that your existence is already enough—and that you carry power just by being here.
What should a new client know about working with you?
Working with me is grounded in connection, presence, and safety. You don’t need to “have it all together” to begin—in fact, that’s what we’re here to explore. I offer unconditional positive regard while holding space for emotional complexity and uncertainty. My approach is not rigid or overly structured. In our work together, I hold a space that’s both gentle and honest. I won’t rush you, but I also won’t avoid what’s real. Our sessions are relational—what happens between us often reflects patterns in your outside world. I may offer reflections, metaphors, or somatic practices. Sometime can be something creative to express yourself:) I honor your autonomy and inner wisdom—you are in the driver’s seat, and I’m here beside you, helping navigate through emotional terrain at your pace. I may ask reflective questions, notice patterns, or challenge gently when something feels stuck, but always with compassion and care. Some clients appreciate having structure or exercises; others just need a safe place to feel and think out loud. Either way, we’ll co-create what support looks like for you. In the first 1–2 sessions, we’ll take time to get to know each other. I may use assessment tools if helpful, but most importantly, I’ll be curious about your goals and what you’re hoping to receive from therapy. I tend to pay special attention to how early experiences; internalized beliefs might be shaping your current emotional world and the people you want to become.
What is your typical process for working with clients?
I believe that therapy is a two-way process and client's own ability. I’m not above or ahead of you—I’m beside you, sometimes as a mirror, sometimes just as a witness. Each session deepens my understanding of what it means to be human. I believe in your strength, your capacity for change, and your right to define what healing looks like. I also believe that there are no “bad parts” in us, only parts that once had to protect or adapt. I work from a client-centered, psychodynamic, and attachment-based framework, which means I believe that much of our emotional life is shaped by early relationships and unconscious survival strategies.
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Education and background
Practice names
Education and training
- New York University, Master's in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
NPI number
1760214472
How soon can I make an appointment with Xiaoxu Hong?
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What practice does Xiaoxu Hong work with?
Xiaoxu Hong works with Phronetic Psychotherapy LCSW PC.
What are common reasons for patients to see Xiaoxu Hong?
Xiaoxu Hong frequently sees patients for Depression, New Patient Visit, Psychotherapy, Psychotherapy Intake / Initial Visit, and Sleep Problems. You can see other visit reasons for Xiaoxu Hong on their profile.
What languages does Xiaoxu Hong speak?
Xiaoxu Hong speaks English and Chinese (Mandarin).